10 Secrets of Wedding Planning

Written by Colette House | Photography by Photography by Lauryn

One thing you can be certain of on your wedding day is that it’s going to be a blur. Before you know it, you will have walked down the aisle, recited your marriage vows and danced the night away with your closest friends and family. Granted, after many hours, the event that you had been planning, anticipating and wishing for is going to be over. Although the day is sure to be more special than you could have ever imagined and maybe you even breathe a sigh of relief knowing that months of planning made for a magical day, there’s going to be a touch of sadness that the night is over.

Then you may start to wonder how such a special day could have stressed you out for the entire year preceding it. Was it really necessary to agonize over which tablecloth to pick or spend hours choosing the right flowers for the centerpieces? Yes and no. Yes, because all the little details came together and made for one special wedding day, but no, because the stress sometimes took the focus off what was most important — the marriage.

So, try removing some of the stress when planning your wedding day, always be sure to remember the following:

1. NOT ALL ADVICE NEEDS TO BE FOLLOWED.

Everybody, and I do mean everybody, is going to share their opinions on how your wedding should run. Don’t let all of the opinions and suggestions overwhelm you. Rather than taking every piece of advice to heart and trying to somehow make it fit into your wedding plan, just know that opinions — and tactfully sidestepping them — are part of the process.

In other words, just because someone offers advice doesn’t mean you need to follow it. You can agree to disagree and still have an amazing wedding. And don’t worry, you don’t have to hurt anyone’s feelings. Just genuinely say, “What a fun idea,” and let it go.

2. MAKE A LIST OF NONNEGOTIABLE WEDDING DAY ITEMS.

Even though many people are involved in planning your wedding, at the end of the day, it’s about making you and your betrothed happy. There are probably

certain things the two of you really want to happen on your special day. Say you want to get married in the fall at a venue near your childhood homes, but not everyone involved with the planning is on board. Well, it’s time to put your foot down.

Make a list of your must-haves and share it with everyone right away. Then have the other people involved do the same. That way everybody knows what’s most important and you can work together to make it happen.

3. IF IT’S NOT ON YOUR MUST-HAVE LIST, CONSIDER LETTING IT GO.

Once the individuals involved with planning your event know what your must-haves are, consider letting smaller things slide. Let’s say your mother really wants a certain song played at the reception. It’s not your favorite, but not playing it isn’t on your nonnegotiable list. Why not make Mom happy and play the darn song? Or maybe another family member wants a certain dessert served in addition to cake. You may not want another dessert option, but if it’s not super important to you, maybe just let it go.

Pick and choose your battles. Don’t let your most important needs go, but if you can give on something without it ruining your wedding day, definitely consider it. In the end, the little battles just add extra stress and take away from the fun of planning.

4. PICK VENDORS YOU REALLY LIKE.

Remember to select your vendors carefully. Go with the ones that fit your budget and understand you best. The right vendors can bring your vision to life. At one point or another, someone is going to suggest you use a particular vendor and you may really want to make it work with this vendor, too, but realize after meeting that your visions just don’t match. Don’t force it. There are so many wedding vendors out there to choose from, it would be a shame to use one that you don’t have better chemistry with. Wedding planning is intense enough. Make sure you build a team that’s right for you and can help you through the process.

5. PICK A DIRECTION AND STICK WITH IT.

There are so many amazing places to find wedding inspiration. Hello, Pinterest! In the beginning, you may save, clip and cut out anything and everything that you may like at your wedding. But after accumulating a mountain of images of outdoor weddings, barn weddings, museum weddings, etc., consider consolidating the pictures by searching for common themes.

For example, if you discover that nearly every photo you saved had black chairs in it, use that inspiration to find the chairs that fit exactly what you want. If you find yourself drowning in pictures, pull out your 10 favorites and find the similarity in each. Use those patterns as a jumping-off point for the design of your reception.

6. DON’T BE AFRAID TO ASK FOR WHAT YOU WANT.

Remember, this is your wedding day. If your vision isn’t coming together, don’t be shy about consulting your vendors about it. They want you to be happy, and should always be willing to work with you on tweaking things here and there for the big event.

7. FINISH YOUR GUEST LIST EARLY.

Formulating a solid guest list early in the process removes a significant amount of stress. Knowing how many people may attend your wedding makes it so much easier to design nearly every other detail.

Your guest list can help determine how many tables and centerpieces you need, what size cake you want, how large your dance floor should be and what your budget is per plate. Getting the logistics down early saves a lot of time — and many headaches — in the long run.

8. MAKE YOUR GUESTS HAPPY, BUT REMEMBER TO PLEASE YOURSELF AND YOUR SIGNIFICANT OTHER FIRST.

Of course, everyone wants their wedding guests to leave their big day happy. After all, they took the time out of their busy lives to celebrate your wedding. However, while you should make your guests’ happiness a priority, you’re undoubtedly going to worry too much about what would please them, and not enough about how you and your spouse want to spend your day. Chances are your guests are just happy to be included and celebrate with you. Make them feel special, but make sure you and your partner are happy, too.

9. BE GRATEFUL.

Aspire to stay in the moment as much as possible during the planning process. Enjoy every shower, your bach party, and searching for your dress or formalwear (even if it takes multiple visits to multiple stores). Try not to brood over how many tasks you still have to complete. Constantly remind yourself how lucky you are to be surrounded by good friends and family who are supporting you and celebrating this whirlwind year leading up to your wedding. Cultivating gratitude is definitely going to help

you get through the more stressful moments.

10. ENJOY, ENJOY, ENJOY.

Looking back, you want to remember how much fun it was to plan every aspect of the day. It’s easy get lost in the weeds of wedding planning stress, but it’s more important to remember how awesome it is that you got to plan a celebration honoring lifelong love and commitment. Before you know it, your wedding will come and go. So, sample every flavor at your cake tasting, try on a bunch of different dress styles and have a ball throughout it all.

So, while the details are definitely important, try not to worry about them too much. Challenges will arise, but these dilemmas have a tendency to work themselves out — especially if you have a great team of professionals helping your big day come together. And when you think you can’t make one more decision, remember this: In just a few short months, you’ll be married to your best friend, dancing the night away, happy and in love.

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Wedding Style & Decor Trends: Fall 2020

Alternative Altars

Weddings are no longer a one-size-fits-all event. Guests frequently look forward to the big day as a nod to the creativity and charisma of the couple, which is why many couples are opting for unique altars that showcase their personality. Beyond your traditional wedding arch is a host of options that pack a wow factor. Imagine a neon installation, an over-the-top floral sculpture or showstopping ceremony scenery that can transition into your head table backdrop.

Design & Curated Decor Rustique Swan Event Design & Curated Decor
Photography By Kerri Carlquist Photography

Good Things Come in Small Packages

Are you a couple that has teased each other about eloping, but could never fully commit to the idea of not celebrating with friends and family altogether? Maybe social distancing guidelines have changed your plans or you’re not a fan of the big traditional wedding. Then consider celebrating your big day with the increasingly popular micro-wedding. This style of wedding typically includes up to 50 guests — frequently immediate family and close friends only. Many couples make the mistake of thinking smaller means trivial or unremarkable, but with a smaller guest count comes the freedom to focus on thoughtful décor details and other extras that have more space to impress. Your micro-wedding can be just as elegant and intricate, and full of love and tradition as you’ve always dreamed.

Photography by Photography by Lauryn

Setting the Happy Hour Wheels in Motion

Turn the traditional open bar scene on its head. Welcome friends and family to cocktail hour with a different way to get a signature drink — by bellying up to a specialty liquor cart or truck. You can simultaneously serve a goblet of bubbles, brew or booze, while adding a unique twist to your event. To add a touch of whimsy or personal flair, garnish the cart or truck with thematic wedding décor, florals or vintage glassware. Do you love the idea, but it’s not the right fit for your wedding? Try it out at your wedding shower or post-wedding brunch.

Mobile Bar Bellissimo Bar Company | Photography by Juancho SC Photography

A Little Something Sweet

Bigger is not always better. At a time when couples are scaling back on guest lists and reimagining how food is served, that six-tier cake you always dreamed of may be a bit over the top. Why not go for a smaller one- or two-tier cake, or even individual cakes for each guest? They can be just as elaborate and decadent as a large one. If you are planning a small celebration or micro- wedding, you don’t have to give up all of the traditional elements of your big day like the cake and the cake cutting, just cut the quantity.

Photograph Courtesy of Toni Patisserie & Café

All Things Gold Are “In” Again

Gold exudes elegance and warmth, so we’re in no way surprised couples are drawn to it once again. It’s emerging not only in ceremony décor, but also with wedding bands — just more proof that styles truly are cyclical. In terms of color palettes, many are opting to use a brassy gold as an accent color. It offers a little gleam to other hues, pairs well with most any color and looks gorgeous against any style. If you’re not sure where to start, think about using it for any calligraphy you’ll need — from invitations to seating cards. Less is more! Vintage and antique shops are great places to source an ultra-unique item like flatware and candlesticks.

Photography by Emma Belen Photography

8 Tips for Booking Guest Accommodations

Written by Angela Ash | Photography by Photography by Lauryn

Your wedding is not only an important event in your lives as a couple, but it is a day that your family and friends are looking forward to as well — often with as much excitement and anticipation. A wedding is one of the happiest occasions that can be imagined, so it’s only normal that everyone on your guest list will do everything possible to ensure that they can be a part of this momentous event.

When you look at your guest list, you may find that it is comprised primarily of people who live in the same general location. However, everyone has out-of-town loved ones that they hope can be a part of their big day. Moreover, what if you just moved to a different city? If you choose to host your wedding from your new home, then you’ll have plenty of people traveling to join your celebration.

For all of your friends, family members and coworkers who will be flying, driving or even taking a train to attend your wedding, you will want to make things as simple as possible for them. After all, they may be taking time off work, paying for travel expenses and juggling busy schedules for this precious moment.

Therefore, you want to ensure that finding hotel accommodations is not just another hurdle to jump through so that they can attend your wedding. Even though you have menu tastings, formalwear fittings and way too many other tasks to mention on your plate, you can often set up accommodation options with only a few phone calls or emails.

So, without further ado, it’s time to explore eight important tips for booking guest accommodations for your wedding.

1. LOCATION ALWAYS MATTERS.

You’ve heard the phrase “Location is everything” on repeat your entire life because it is absolutely true and it is even more important at an event like your wedding. While you may like the idea of your day moving slowly, so you can enjoy every second without even the slightest hitch, chances are good that this may be the busiest day you’ve ever encountered. In short, every single minute counts.

Having accommodations that are nearby can be crucial, especially if you’ve opted to book your own rooms the night before for an added convenience. Before you even think about contacting a particular hotel to inquire about making arrangements, make use of that handy GPS app on your smartphone to check on the actual distance from the hotel to the venue. Once you’ve made that note, look at the actual driving time. Just because a hotel is only 10 minutes away doesn’t mean that you can always use the estimated minute-per-mile method.

You may have selected a venue that is in a busy area, which can increase travel times. When you can, check the driving time on the exact day of the week and time of day as your wedding, if you want to get as accurate as possible. If you can find a hotel that is within walking distance, this is your best bet. That way, you don’t have to worry about traffic and drive times at all. To see everything on an even broader scale, look at your venue on Google maps and then start to search the surrounding areas for available hotels. You can even view price points or set a filter to match a multitude of options.

2. EXPLORE THE HOTEL’S EVENT SPACE.

It never hurts to get an idea of the event space that is offered at a hotel, even if you already have your dream wedding venue booked. For example, you may want to host additional events at the hotel to make it convenient for your out-of-town guests who will find it harder to travel back and forth to other locations. Many couples opt to host their rehearsal dinner or post-wedding brunches at their chosen hotel.

You can also consider planning a going-away lunch for your out-of- towners, even if you’re already on your plane to discover the wonders of Europe or ready to board your cruise ship to the Caribbean. The possibilities are endless, so it’s definitely worth looking into an event space that may be available on your selected dates.

3. ASK ABOUT OTHER EVENTS.

When you have the venue booked and your date is set in stone, you want to make sure there aren’t any conferences or large meetings being held at the hotel. Any events that could make it difficult for last-minute guests to book a room could be problematic. Additionally, check the surrounding areas for things like sporting events, festivals or big- name concerts. These attendees may be looking at the same hotel as an overnight option and you may not want to be surrounded by the hype that often accompanies such a crowd — especially the weekend of your wedding.

4. LOOK FOR AMENITIES AND EXTRAS AVAILABLE TO YOUR GUESTS.

While you’re looking at things like room types and availability, you should also explore the amenities that are offered to hotel guests. Let’s face it — if you could have made arrangements with a hotel that offered an indoor pool for a similar price in the same location as the one you selected, you had better not let your guests find out. You may think that no one has time to enjoy the property’s amenities, but you need to keep in mind that your guests may not have the same hectic pre- and post- wedding itineraries as you.

Furthermore, many of your guests may view the weekend as a little getaway, so why not make it as much of a vacation as possible? Things that can make the stay more enjoyable include a:

  • Swimming pool
  • Hot tub or sauna
  • Spa
  • Fitness center
  • On-site dining options
  • Bar
  • Lounge area
  • Play area or other children’s activities
  • Shuttle for airport transportation

5. DON’T BE AFRAID TO GET A LITTLE CREATIVE.

When you’re asking exploratory questions about the property, don’t forget to get inspired by additional ideas that could make your guests’ stay even more convenient or memorable. First, if the hotel is within driving distance of the venue, check to see if transportation can be arranged for your guests. Many hotels offer courtesy shuttles to the airport and other popular destinations within the city, and that’s an added bonus. But often, if a large block of rooms is booked, you may be able to coordinate additional shuttle services with the hotel, even if it’s at an additional cost. If a lot of your guests are flying in for your wedding, this service would be invaluable.

Next, if you’re still thinking of ways to show your out-of-town guests a little love for making the effort to travel to your wedding, you can also consider giving them a small gift bag upon their check-in. This can include anything from unique, regional treats to tickets to a local attraction that’s within walking distance.

6. BOOK AS A GROUP.

Once you have decided that this property checks all the boxes for what you’re looking for in a hotel for your guests, you are ready to move on to the most important tip on this list — to book as a group. The first thing you need to do is get an estimate of the number of rooms that you will need, so that the property has a general idea of how many guests to anticipate. This number doesn’t need to be exact, but it should be accurate enough to create a good starting point for negotiations. The total number will undoubtedly change several times before the wedding, with some guests finding that they can no longer attend, and others finally realizing that they can readjust their schedules and be there to lend their support.

When coming up with your count, be sure to include:

  • All out-of-town guests who have expressed that they would like to attend
  • Any members of the bridal party who’d like to be closer to the venue
  • Yourselves, as the hotel is a perfect place to spend the night before or after the wedding

Next, you need to begin the process of making arrangements as a group, which may be referred to as a “block” of rooms. Note that you will not confirm reservations or make payments, but you will make an agreement with the hotel to set aside a number of rooms for your guests. Typically, the rooms need to be booked before a specific date or the hotel releases them to other interested parties. Be sure to set up a group code, so that people booking their reservations can use this information to ensure they are identified as a part of your group. This also negates any confusion that may be created by using last names that may be unfamiliar or difficult to pronounce.

Additionally, if you are thinking about booking a suite for the wedding party to use, consider booking it for two days. That way, you have time to bring over all of the necessities, as well as relax with a little downtime.

7. CONSIDER MORE THAN ONE HOTEL.

No matter where you look or what options are available to you, your wedding may simply occur at a busy time of the year or there may be unavoidable events that are booking up large blocks of rooms. Perhaps you are having a holiday wedding or maybe your wedding date falls on the same day as an important citywide event. If this is the case, then it may be wise to make arrangements with two different hotel properties for your group.

8. SPREAD THE WORD.

The final step is to spread the word about the options that you have arranged. Some couples may include a small card inside their invitations or you can use your wedding website to list the information. Regardless of what you do, always follow up with word of mouth, especially if you haven’t confirmed with a guest who needs accommodations. Above all else, be sure your guests do not book their rooms independently. If they do, they will not receive the special discounted rate.

Setting up hotel accommodations for your out-of-town guests will not be a very time-consuming task, but it can make all the difference. By following these simple tips, your guests will enjoy the convenience of a prime location, rather than having to race across town and possibly encounter traffic. Moreover, not only will you make this step of attending your wedding easier for your guests, but they’ll also see the efforts that you have made and will make the same effort to be a part of your celebration.

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8 Tips for Finding Your Dream Dress

Written by Lauren Beers and Anne Morrissy | Photography by TWA Photographic Artists

Whether you dream of a huge, elaborate celebration or an intimate, private gathering, the perfect gown is a vital element of every wedding. After all, this will be the dress of all dresses and the one you want to remember as nothing less than perfect. All brides-to-be are faced with the decision of which dress to choose, and while this may seem like a monumental task, there are several ways to lessen any anxiety that accompanies this process.

Here are eight tips to help you get the most out of gown shopping. With these tips rest assured, you will be armed with the knowledge and confidence necessary to select the dress of your dreams without second-guessing yourself along the way.

1. CALCULATE YOUR BUDGET.

There is no sense in falling in love with a gown that is outside of your budget. By firmly setting a budget prior to looking at dresses, you ensure that you can both fall in love with, and afford, your dream dress. It is important to consider the cost of any alterations that may be necessary for your dress to fit properly as well.

Before ordering your gown, make sure to ask the salon about the price and process of alterations once the dress arrives. Alteration pricing can vary widely and should be factored into the overall budget. In addition to general fit accommodations, alterations include the gown’s bustle, which can be quite complicated depending on the dress design. Alteration appointments generally begin about four months before the wedding — expect to attend one to three fittings before the gown is completed.

While there is no harm in shopping around for alterations, make sure that whomever you choose is reputable, and guarantees his or her work. While there may be less expensive alteration options available, having your dream dress altered incorrectly could quickly turn into a nightmare.

When setting your budget, also keep in mind what accessories or details may enhance your dream dress. Does your vision include shoes that cost double the price of your dress itself? Is your gown only complete with extra detailing? Do you know how much the veil you have dreamt about since you were little actually costs now that it’s time to say “I do?” By planning for accessories and details ahead of time, you can more accurately define your budget and find a final look that fits within your allotted budget.

2. DECIDE ON YOUR VIBE.

In your hands, you are currently holding a wealth of information when it comes to all things weddings; flip through these pages and see if any gowns stand out to you. Utilize social media as a way to gain inspiration from other brides who have paved the way before you. Reference all of these resources prior to stepping inside a bridal boutique to avoid feeling overwhelmed. Whether you’re flipping through the pages of this magazine or scanning Pinterest, inspiration is everywhere and research is one of the most important parts of finding your wedding dress. Fortunately, it’s the fun kind of research.

Simply compile an archive of dresses you love. Go wild, then once you have a treasure chest full of styles you like, look for similarities. Is there a color, cut or designer that keeps popping up? Pay attention to those. Although you will need to maintain some flexibility, start to develop a list of items to consider. Include the location and season of your wedding, the shades or colors you prefer and the shapes or styles you gravitate towards.

Have you always dreamed of walking down the aisle in a gown that would make Cinderella envious? Or are you seeking a simple yet elegant look? Are you opting out of a dress completely and on the hunt for a modern pantsuit? Deciding what look you would like to convey on your wedding day can help weed out a handful of cumbersome options and unnecessary shopping- related stress.

In the same way, decide what types of styles, fabrics and details you’d like to avoid. Maybe you love the long-sleeve look, for example, but also know you are not going to wear long sleeves for your July wedding. These details are great to make note of. Once you decide on your overall image, you can use your newfound inspiration to hit the ground running in the hunt for your dream dress.

3. RESEARCH BRIDAL SALONS AND BOOK A FEW APPOINTMENTS.

It’s best to make appointments to try on gowns at multiple salons to see the full array of options. At each salon, be honest about your budget and resist the urge to try on gowns that are vastly outside your budget. Be prepared as each salon will offer its very own experience. Smaller, local bridal salons may offer a more personalized experience, although they may have a limited selection of gowns. Larger bridal salons may carry a wider assortment of gowns but may not be available to deliver that personal touch you desire.

4. IT TAKES A (SMALL) VILLAGE.

If one thing can be learned from years of watching wedding shows on TV, it’s that less is often times more. This rings true when it is time for you to determine whom to bring with you dress shopping.

While the idea of having a large group of your closest friends and family with you may sound picturesque, a crowd can often make the already challenging decision that much more difficult as more people often means more input.

Many brides opt for bringing between two and four people with them shopping. Your immediate family members may get first pick (for example, your mom, grandma or sisters), then one or two from the wedding party, followed by your future mother- or sisters-in-law. If you have room, invite more from your wedding party. If you don’t have a good relationship with one of the people listed, however, it’s best to avoid them on this special occasion. After all, this is your day and no matter whom you choose to bring with you, one thing to always keep in mind is that this is the dress you are going to be wearing. You are the one who needs to be in love with your final decision. While it is oftentimes easier said than done, try not to let the opinion of others deter you from following your heart. Looking back on your wedding photographs with regret over not picking the gown you wanted would truly be a shame.

5. KEEP AN OPEN MIND.

Falling in love with a dress while standing in a fitting room is one thing, but you also want to make sure that you can comfortably enjoy yourself for the entirety of your wedding celebration. For instance, you may try on one dress you love, but quickly discover you can’t breathe when you try to sit down. Enjoying your wedding cupcakes would be nearly impossible.

Think about your wedding and find a dress that fits accordingly. Are you planning on dancing until your venue turns the lights off? Perhaps a gown with yards upon yards of additional fabric weighing you down is a bad idea. Or are you saying “I do!” on the beach? Seek out a dress that is lightweight and airy. A great alternative is to choose two dresses — one for the ceremony and one for the reception. It’s your celebration; you can change gowns if you want to! With thousands of options available, finding a dress (or dresses) that makes you feel beautiful, while still enjoying your wedding day festivities is a must and absolutely possible.

Also, don’t forget to take into account advice from the salon staff. While it is helpful to go in with a general idea of what you’re looking for, remember that the salon sales staff are experts, and see hundreds or even thousands of customers every year. Many find that the styles they go in coveting don’t suit them for one reason or another, and they often end up preferring the options the salon staff hand-selects for them instead. Similarly, because sizing of wedding gowns is so erratic, salon staff may have the best knowledge of which sizes to try first.

6. TIMING IS EVERYTHING.

Give yourself plenty of time to find your gown. After all, it took you until this moment to find the one to marry, why settle for a dress that isn’t perfection? Give yourself at least 10 months prior to your wedding to purchase a dress. In contrast, once you find the gown of your dreams, don’t wait too long to order. By doing so, you ensure ample time for your gown to arrive and for you to schedule any necessary alterations to make your dream dress a reality. While it’s possible the bridal salon may have the gown in stock in your size, it’s much more likely the order is placed with the manufacturer, which can be a slow process.

Also allow yourself the opportunity to appreciate each new chapter that accompanies this special time prior to your wedding. Enjoy the celebratory showers and parties that are thrown in your honor, and soak up the love that surrounds you during your engagement. Try not to let the anxiety of finding a gown overshadow these joyous moments. With a minimum of 10 months, you have enough time to find the perfect dress without experiencing the buyer’s remorse that often goes along with rushing a purchase.

Once the perfect dress is officially yours, put it in your closet and don’t look back. In other words, resist the urge to try on your gown over and over again. The last thing you want to do to the perfect dress is tear or stain it before your big day. Besides, if you try it on one too many times, it may lose its luster as you almost certainly overanalyze your decision.

7. HIGHLIGHT YOU.

For most of us, our wedding day is our most photographed day. With that in mind, it’s of the utmost importance that you are in love with the way you look in your dress. Wedding gowns come in a variety of materials, cuts, colors, sizes and designs for a reason. No two brides are exactly alike. What may appear off- putting on the hanger may fit like a glove once you try it on. Think of finding a dress like its very own chapter in your wedding book. Go into this chapter with an open mind and an open heart to ensure that you are giving yourself every opportunity to fall in love.

8. CHOOSE WISELY.

In a one-hour salon appointment, brides typically try on eight to 13 gowns. At each salon you visit, ask if you can take reference photos to help you remember each design. Once you have seen a sufficient number of gowns, narrow the options down to your favorite three to five dresses, then make your choice from these. Be honest about your preferences, and don’t let anyone pressure you into buying a gown you don’t love.

It is also advised to purchase a dress that fits your current figure and not a goal that you set for yourself. While many couples like to use their wedding as motivation to revamp their eating and exercise habits, there is no reason to put extra pressure on yourself to squeeze into a dress that is two sizes too small. Planning a wedding can be stressful enough, why add the stress of weight loss into the mix? Never let your beauty be defined by a number.

The glow that radiates from a bride on her wedding day has nothing to do with the price of the gown, the designer, the size or the style, or even how long it took to decide on the dress. The reason brides are so beautiful on their wedding day stems from the confidence they carry as they walk down the aisle. Confidence in your dress decision brings you one step closer to your happily ever after.

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Vendor Viewpoint – Biagio Events and Catering

Biagio Events and Catering

Biagio Events and Catering swung by the blog to discuss everything their amazing property has to offer to couples looking for a unique venue with the perfect spot to say “I do!”. 

How have you been able to help your couples during Covid-19?

This has been a very emotional time for all of our events. But we understand that we all are being affected by this and we made the decision immediately to postpone our events that needed to be or have chosen to do so. We also offered the option to use funds towards catering or other events in the future with no restrictions as far as time frame. We made the decision to also have our staff available from the start of Covid-19 so they never feel a lapse in communication. Emails have been open and phones on!

What are your safety & social distancing implementations for upcoming weddings & events at Belvedere?

We are implementing multiple procedures for the safety of all guests and staff including: limiting seating to 6-10 guests per table; face masks when not seated at a table; continuous cleaning of the space including but not limited to bars, door handles, chairs, etc.; concierge buffet service- attendant at buffets to serve guests to limit the number of hands at the buffet; plated meals whenever possible; consistent changing of clean serving utensils; masks on all employees during meetings and events; hand sanitizer stations strategically placed; appropriate signage hung for all to see.

Biagio Events and Catering

Couples looking to host a wedding in Chicago have hundreds of options. What makes Biagio Events and Catering so unique?

Biagio Events and Catering is newly renovated in the last 5 years. We offer two types of spaces: traditional and loft spaces.

How is Biagio Events and Catering adaptable?

We offer two types of spaces: traditional and loft spaces. And we have a restaurant attached for smaller events or just a drink before your wedding reception.

Biagio Events and Catering
What about the size of events? How does Biagio Events and Catering cater to small, intimate weddings vs. big, boisterous ones?

All of our spaces are customizable. We have 4 rooms that can combine together or function separately.

– Suite 1 seating up to 200

– Suite 2 seating up to 80

– Suite 3 seating up 200

– Suite 4 seating up to 200

Currently, due to Covid- 19, all of these counts are being adjusted down for social distancing as we require tables are 6ft apart tables and limit the number of guests to 6-10 per table.

Why does Biagio Events and Catering like hosting weddings?

We like to take part in all different events from all different cultures which all have their own unique style.

Biagio Events and Catering

What are your tips for couples who are just starting the wedding planning process, especially those who are still trying to pick a venue?

Keep an open mind to all options available to you, but keep these tips in mind:

– Know your guest count before you visit the venue.
– Be on the same page about your budget with all parties involved.
– Know your style when you are venue shopping.

Biagio Events and Catering offers a versatile space that can be tailored to accommodate every type and size of event, with a professional events team that will work with you on every detail. Click here for more information about booking your wedding at Biagio Events and Catering. 

Venue Viewpoint – Belevedere Events & Banquets

The wedding pros at Belvedere Events & Banquets popped by the blog to share all about their beautiful and versatile space for wedding ceremonies and receptions. 

How have you been able to help your couples during Covid-19?

This has been a very emotional time for all of our events. But we understand that we all are being affected by this and we made the decision immediately to postpone our events that needed to be or have chosen to do so. We also offered the option to use funds towards catering or other events in the future with no restrictions as far as time frame. We made the decision to also have our staff available from the start of Covid-19 so they never feel a lapse in communication.

What are your safety & social distancing implementations for upcoming weddings & events at Belvedere?

We are implementing multiple procedures for the safety of all guests and staff including: limiting seating to 6-10 guests per table; face masks when not seated at a table; continuous cleaning of the space including but not limited to bars, door handles, chairs, etc.; concierge buffet service- attendant at buffets to serve guests to limit the number of hands at the buffet; plated meals whenever possible; consistent changing of clean serving utensils; masks on all employees during meetings and events.

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Couples looking to host a wedding in Chicago have hundreds of options. What makes Belvedere so unique?

Belvedere is simply unique and offers a subtle atmosphere, outdoor event area, windows, fireplace, private bridal suites. We have a hotel attached to us and we are conveniently located 10 minutes from Chicago O’Hare International Airport. We have wonderful photo opportunities by our patio, fountains, staircases and lobby area.

How is Belvedere adaptable?

Belvedere is designed with all couples in mind. Our silver, gold, white, ivory tones work with all color schemes and ideas.

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What about the size of events? How does Belvedere cater to small, intimate weddings vs. big, boisterous ones?

All of our spaces are customizable. We have 4 rooms that can combine together or function separately.

-Patio seating up to 60

-Suite 1 seating up to 300

-Suite 2 seating up to 200

-Suite 3 seating up 200

-Suite 4 seating up to 100

-Lobby seating up to 60

Currently, due to Covid- 19, all of these counts are being adjusted down for social distancing as we require tables are 6ft apart tables and limit the number of guests to 6-10 per table.

Why does Belvedere like hosting weddings?

Because we love to see the joy in people. It is one of the best moments in a person’s life! Why wouldn’t we want to be a part of that occasion?

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What are your tips for couples who are just starting the wedding planning process, especially those who are still trying to pick a venue?

Do you see your wedding at that location should be your first question. Not because of outside influences, but is this perfect for your dream and budget? Does it offer flexible spaces? Can menu items be adjusted for your wants and needs?

Keep an open mind to all options available to you.

Belvedere Events & Banquets offers a versatile space can be tailored to accommodate every type and size of event, with a professional events team that will work with you on every detail. Click here for more information about booking your wedding at Belvedere Events & Banquets. 

Date Night at the Drive-In: Taking a break from COVID Wedding Planning!

Wedding planning is stressful enough as it is, then add in a pandemic and we’re sure your stress level has skyrocketed! Take a break from wedding planning and have a little fun with your partner at a socially distanced drive-in like CHI-Together. 

COVID-19 has surely tested the limits on the way that people socialize, form connections and celebrate milestones. Specifically, the milestone of getting married during a global pandemic has put many couples’ relationships to the test. Juggling changes in venue capacity,  narrowing down of guests lists, finding new vendors and abiding by social distancing guidelines can all be additional stressors during a couple’s wedding planning process. However, such alterations are necessary if planning a wedding during a global pandemic.

With all of this added stress, we suggest that all couples step away from their planning and take a night to truly enjoy each other’s company. Find creative activities to do with your partner during this time is a way to keep the romance alive and the weddings worries afar. You must set aside time for each other and your relationship. Stay positive by shifting your focus back on each other and spending quality time together.

Socially safe dates are trending and it’s time for you soon-to-be newlyweds to take a break from wedding planning and get on the bandwagon! Avoiding large gatherings is a must when practicing social distancing, but there are other ways to ramp up date nights yet stay safe as you explore our beautiful city and each other. Look for activities to do with your partner outdoors or activities that you can do while wearing a mask. Make an event out of your date night and go the extra mile to make it special!

Here’s one date night option for you that will take it up a notch while enjoying the city lights, music and a movie all in one experience.  Attend a full evening of fun together at CHI-Together Drive-In at Soldier Field. Bringing back the nostalgia of the classic drive-in yet urbanizing it with an action packed evening of live music, contests and games followed by the movie screening… this night is sure to be a hit and a night to remember!

Take it up a notch and pack a picnic basket of your favorite movie night snacks, creating a comfortable bed in the back seat of your truck or trunk with pillows and attend this drive-in movie experience with your partner. Don’t want to worry about packing dinner? There are food trucks on site too! If you really want to make it special, bring along string lights and have them strung in your trunk or bring candles to layer in some ambiance!

The efforts in combating COVID-19 has brought back the drive-in to weekend entertainment and they are back better than ever (and in the heart of Chicago)! CHI-Together Drive-In is located in the Soldier Field South parking lot offering one of the most innovative drive-in music and movie entertainment experiences that Chicago has boasted since the pandemic swept the country. CHI-Together is the largest drive-in music and movie event in Chicago and has three jumbo screens that feature movies everyone loves to watch.

What makes this deal even sweeter? Each ticket includes the live music pre-show and the movie along with a bucket of popcorn. Want to make it a double date? Go for it! The purchase of one vehicle ticket is good for up to 6 people per car. Socially safe date-night is possible, fun and can re-energize the wedding planning process by taking a step back and simply enjoying each other. So take a break, get out, and enjoy a date night with your future forever!

Tickets, movie line-up and more information can be found online here: www.CHI-Together.com

All photography by As They Are Photography.

Vendor Viewpoint – Drury Lane Theatre & Events

(photo credit: She See Photography)

Director of Events, Brandon Bierlein, at Drury Lane dropped in to answer some questions about their beautiful, unique venue. 

Couples looking to host a wedding in Chicago have hundreds of options. What makes Drury Lane so unique?

Location, location, location. We’re perfectly spaced between two international airports, downtown Chicago, and many fabulous suburban downtown areas. We’re also surrounded by picturesque locations perfect for wedding photos.

Inside Drury Lane itself, the crystal chandeliers and bright, lofty ballrooms are a huge draw for us. There are quite literally thousands of Swarovski crystals in nearly every room. Some of them have traveled with us for decades from previous Drury Lane locations across Chicagoland. They’re part of our history and add instant glamour.

And of course, we’re a family business. Many of our event team members have been with us for over 20 years. This organization, while large, is family-run and family-focused at its core. Our team cares about our space deeply, and every single guest is welcomed into our home warmly and with lots of love, attention, and care for the legacy of our space. There is a lot of pride alive in this building.

(Photo credit: Maha Studios)

How does Drury Lane adapt to couples’ needs?

We offer various customizable spaces, custom floor plans, complimentary parking, the list goes on. The Drury Lane team is passionate about creativity, and every couple is treated with individual attention and care. Each event is perfectly catered to our couple’s wishes, and we love turning new and innovative ideas into reality, whether that involves working with new vendors or getting creative with our own team’s skills.

How does Drury Lane cater to small, intimate weddings vs. big, boisterous ones?

We host events for anywhere from 50 guests to over 2,000 guests and pride ourselves on the flexibility of our spaces; within each room, the floor plan is completely customizable. Our most intimate private space, the English Room, accommodates anywhere from 50 to 80 guests and is perfect for small weddings, rehearsal dinners, or bridal showers. The Grand Ballroom holds 2,000 guests, and it can be divided into four smaller ballrooms – the Oak, Brook, Terrace, and Venetian Rooms – each of which accommodates up to 400 guests. The Crystal Ballroom, which holds up to 240 people, is a separate ballroom with its own cocktail foyer, which is perfect for weddings with both ceremony and reception at Drury Lane.

(Photo credit: Monika Baranski Photography)

What makes a Drury Lane wedding special?

We are so much more than a venue – our relationship with our couples is everything. We love working with couples from the moment they walk into our space for the first time to the end of their event with us night-of. Our attention to detail, our offerings, and the care from our team speaks volumes. We enjoy lending an ear and offering professional advice throughout the process in addition to all the various things we provide in our package. At the end of the day, we enjoy working with people, and we love making memories with our couples and assisting in a smooth, stress-free experience from every angle.

(Photo credit: Elizabeth Greve Photography)

What are your tips for couples who are just starting the wedding planning process, especially those who are still trying to pick a venue?

Go with your gut. It’s important not only that you love the space but also that you really vibe with the team. Look to work with people who are honest, bright, positive, and willing to go above and beyond to ensure you are comfortable and happy with every aspect of their offerings. If you love planning, then by all means, take the helm and enjoy the ride. If you’re not much of a planner, we encourage you to hire a planner or relay any questions you have directly to us. We will always do our best to steer you in the right direction. At the end of the day, the process should be fun and enjoyable, and so much of that comes from who you’re working with.

(Photo credit: Jaime Campanelli Photography)

Drury Lane Theatre & Events versatile space can be tailored to accommodate every type and size of event, with a professional events team that will work with you on every detail. Click here for more information about booking your wedding at Drury Lane Theatre & Events. 

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Perfect Proposal Wes and Katy

Wes, determined to propose to Katy, pandemic or not, got down on an impromptu knee only to be given the ultimate plot twist. All photos by Angela Conners Treimer with Stories from Six Feet.
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We met through mutual friends in 2015. We were both in relationships at the time and learned we signed up for the same half marathon. We resolved to be accountability buddies. Following the race, we kept in touch here and there, reconnecting when Katy was shifting careers, when I went on medical leave from work, at a surprise birthday party, and again when I lost my job. We always crossed paths during pivotal moments in each other’s lives. We remained friends for four years and it evolved into an amazing relationship. After that, we both knew right away.

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How Can I Ever Thank You?

We all know wedding planning involves a lot of time, energy and usually a healthy dose of stress at some point. But what makes that all worth it? Wedding gifts! (Okay, and maybe the whole being married to the love of your life part, too.) But in all seriousness, you will probably receive more gifts for your wedding than at any other time in your life. From outfitting your kitchen with matching silverware to fluffy, monogrammed towels for your bathroom, you will be given plenty of thoughtful items that you actually want and need. The only catch to this plethora of presents? Writing the thank-you note.

The etiquette on this item is pretty clear, you have got to send a thank-you note to every single person who gives you a gift. The note both communicates your appreciation and also confirms that you received the gift so that the giver knows it was not lost in transit. Thank-you notes should always be handwritten, as a printed message comes across as cold and thoughtless. While you can arguably take up to three months after your Big Day to send a thank-you, the gesture feels more sincere when sent in a timely manner. It is perfectly fine to send your notes before the wedding for gifts received at showers ahead of time.

Newlyweds can sometimes feel unsure about what to say or how to structure a thank-you note, especially since sending handwritten letters is pretty rare these days. We have simplified the process for you and laid out everything you need to know to make sure you are sending thoughtful thank-you notes that everyone will appreciate.

The Note

Traditionally, wedding thank-you notes are small, folded-over cards with a monogram on the front. If you choose to take the traditional approach, you can use your new married monogram. If your wedding vibe is less traditional and more laid-back or modern, you may want to choose a colorful, creative and less formal thank-you note. Pick the style that fits your personality, and feel free to use more than one style of thank-you note depending on your audience. You may want a more casual or spirited card for close friends and something more formal for distant relatives and casual acquaintances. And don’t forget that you can register for your thank-you notes as well!

The Format

Thank-you notes are typically small for a reason – you don’t need to write that much! You should always start with a greeting – “Dear Whomever” is always appropriate – and then include two to three sentences of text. In the body of your thank-you note, be sure to mention the specific gift you received and how you will use it. It may seem obvious, but don’t forget to say ‘thank you!’. End with something personal – “We can’t wait to see you soon!” or “We are so happy you could celebrate with us!” – to help your thank-you feel meaningful.

Dear Aunt Helen and Uncle Mark,

Thank you so much for the beautiful vase you gave us. We cannot wait to display the fresh-cut flowers from our garden in it. We are looking forward to seeing you both at the Fourth of July party soon!

Love,

Jennifer

The Gift

It is quite common to receive money as a wedding gift, which can make writing a thank you note feel a bit awkward. Never mention the exact amount given. Rather, treat each monetary gift as a “generous gift,” and write how you plan to spend the cash in your card. For example, “Thank you so much for your generous gift. We were so excited to be able to book a snorkeling excursion on our honeymoon!”

If you receive an item that is a duplicate or that you plan to return, keep that information to yourself. Mention the specific gift given in your note and focus on your gratitude to the gift giver. If you received three toasters, your thank-you might look like this: “We really appreciate the four-slice toaster. We can’t wait to have you over for brunch soon so you can see it in action! It means a lot to us both that you thought of us at this exciting time in our lives.”

There is a chance you may receive something that you’re unsure of how to use or what exactly it is. In that instance, be as general as necessary while focusing on the person who gifted it and how appreciative you are.

The Recipient

Model your greeting based on how familiar you are with who gave you the gift. It would be weird to address your sister or close friend with a formal pre-fix, but your Dad’s work friend that you’ve never met should be addressed with a Mr. or Mrs. as appropriate. You should also think about the recipient when signing your own name. Traditional etiquette states that since you are writing the card yourself, you should only sign your name. For a more modern approach, both names can be signed. For those who are close to you, your first name should suffice. It’s best to use your full name – first, maiden, and married – when sending a card to someone who may not recognize just your first name.

Remember that thank-you notes are not solely for gifts, either. You should send a hand-written thank-you to anyone who helps you plan, prepare and celebrate your Big Day. This includes your wedding planner, photographer, officiant, the host or hostess of any wedding showers or events and any others who contributed significantly to your ceremony or reception.

The Organization

Staying organized and on top of your wedding thank-you notes will make life so much easier. Keep track of every gift – who gave it, what it is, when they gave it – in a spreadsheet so you can clearly mark when you have sent a thank-you note for each item. If you have several wedding showers, try to send those notes immediately after the event so they don’t pile up. If you wait to send any notes until after your wedding day, the task may feel overwhelming.

At the end of the day, guests genuinely appreciate knowing that you received their gift and that you are grateful. Make writing your thank-you notes more fun by writing while watching a guilty pleasure TV show or listening to your favorite podcast while you crank them out. Take a moment to truly reflect on how thankful you are for the generous people who celebrated your Big Day before sitting down to write – the grateful spirit will come through in your notes. The most important thing is that you actually send everyone a thank-you note, so stay on top of your gift list and make sure you address, stamp and mail each and every card of gratitude. Your hand may hurt by the end of the process, but once you are done, treat yourself to a bubble bath and one of those new, fluffy towels you just received.

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